10 Tips for a Godly marriage
Good marriages don’t just happen. It is not just because you married the right person and got lucky. Good marriages are built on more than passion. They are built on principle. In the Scriptures, we find the best guidelines and principles for a healthy marriage. God’s words and God’s principles are never ever outdated…never!
At Living Word Church, we regularly conduct a Marriage Workshop called Marriage Masala which is aimed at helping couples. We believe that marriages are under attack and we must fight this battle spiritually.
Here are some tips that you mat find helpful.
- Every night, no matter how tough it is, pray together. Prayer is one of the most powerful things you can do for your marriage; God uses it to draw the two of you together with Him. If neither of you know what to say, start with something simple like “God, help us… we’re lost… we need You, show us the way.”
- Remember that your spouse is not your enemy. Marriage is tough when both sides are dug in on opposite sides of the battle line. Your spouse is your biggest earthly gift from God. Resolve to work your differences out together. Your enemy is Satan; he wants to keep you at each other’s throats.
- Be Best Friends – Be a safe place for each other to come home and share things with. Confide in each other, have fun with each other, help each other – be each others #1 fan. Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work; If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! – Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
- Appreciate/Encourage Your Spouse -It is so easy to become negative and only think about ways our spouse can improve. We think it is good focus on things you are grateful for that your spouse does for you. Appreciating your spouse and letting them know how thankful you are for them can go a long way.
- Have fun, often. Go out on a date. Watch a movie. Get away for a night alone. If you have kids, get a babysitter. You should date at least once a month; once a week is best. Don’t expect a time slot for a date to fall out of the sky; you’ll both have to be intentional about scheduling time alone.
- When your spouse has something to share, let them get it all out before you speak. Make them feel heard so they know you care about them.
- Hug each other at least once a day. Hold hands. Tell your spouse you love them. Do it even if you don’t feel like it.
- Serve Without Expectations – Marriage isn’t always going to be equal. Some weeks, you might feel like you are carrying 75% of the burden, and some weeks your spouse might feel that way. Love isn’t about keeping track of who did the dishes when or cleaned the house last. These things can come in-between your marriage so quickly. It is easy to become prideful in who did this and who did that. But remember that Christ loves us unconditionally and that is how we are called to love.
- Realize that your differences are blessings
- Take Interest in Your Spouse’s Interests – You can honour, respect and strengthen your marriage by being supportive of one another’s interests.